Crafting a funeral or memorial service
When someone dies, it can be hard to find the time or headspace to reflect on what they truly meant to us, or to think about how we might express this in a service.
My role is to start the conversation that makes this possible. We'll make the time, gather the necessary people, find the right space and just talk. It can be emotionally difficult, but it's time and emotional energy well spent - this is a moment that matters and it can really help to feel you've done justice to the person who has died.
How we'll create your service
- I will meet you – usually in your home – to find out all about the person who has died. The meeting will usually take around 2 hours, but this is flexible. It takes what it takes.
- If you'd like, I can share some questions in advance to help you prepare for our conversation.
- If you’d prefer we can walk and talk. Sometimes it’s easier this way and the distraction can help, so if you have a favourite walk and it’s practical, we can do that.
- Getting to know someone through the photos, stories and memories you share, and your own wishes, I'll shape a service with the right words, music or actions.
- I can help you prepare any contribution you want to make – with words, a reading or in some other way.
- As a civil celebrant I offer a non-religious service, but elements such as prayer, readings or religious song can be incorporated if preferred.
- If you want to involve others who cannot attend our meeting, I can contact them for their input.
- You'll get a draft of the service to comment on, with enough time to make changes.
- I’ll keep in close contact with your funeral directors / undertakers to ensure all goes smoothly, and I’ll be there to support you in the lead up to and on the day.
"We all wanted to thank you for the service. Your calm presence and excellent organisation helped immensely on this difficult day."